Posts Tagged ‘baby budget’

I previously admitted that I am majorly afraid of hoarding. I always say, when in doubt, donate and let someone else get all hoard-y with it. So dealing with the reality of all the stuff babies come with has been a bit tough for me.

Lulu guards my diaper stash

I have already set up a fully-equipped baby room with necessities and niceties: crib; changing table stocked with cloth diapers, wipes, and swaddling blankets; bookshelf already full of fantastic books; futon for feedings and mommy-naps; bouncy chair with mobile attachment; and a space-themed baby “gym” including a space-monkey toy hanging from it (how cool is that?). Stocked up!

However, there are items my friends SWEAR by, that I refuse to buy. I am stubborn and I accept that about myself. I hope you can too. I do realize that I may very well buy these items later, but I’d rather it be an organic, need-based purchase, not a registry frenzy/naive new parent sort of thing.

Essential Items I Stubbornly Refuse To Purchase Now (And Forever?)

Baby Monitor: I have crazy good ears. I have mentioned that here. I will hear that baby crying down the hall. My experience is that babies are not shy about crying, so I’m certain I’ll hear her when I’m downstairs too. I am also slightly neurotic — it is the American woman way. So hearing any movements on that monitor will drive me bananas and send me running to the baby’s room. Not doing it. Ever. Stubborn.

Breast pump: What if I can’t do it? That’s $250 wasted! Then what do I do with it afterward? We may be a one-and-done family. My hospital rents them, so I may look into that option if the need arises.

Bottles: I know, know. I’ve done lost my ever-lovin’ mind!  But here’s the thing: If my breast milk already comes with two easily-accessible, temp-controlled feeding devices, shouldn’t I just use those? I’m going to give it a go with the handy milk sacks I already have and wait and see. That is $ saved and time saved — from pumping, fetching, washing, heating, sorting between nipple types and flow options, etc. We’ll see how long this lasts.

An Infant Car Seat: The convertible car seat I bought accommodates a baby between 5-70 pounds. However, many folks buy an infant seat (5-25/30 pounds) first and then move baby to the convertible seat. Experienced parents insist that the infant seat, which doubles as a bulky bassinet-type carrier and fits onto different stroller systems, is better than sliced bread. I hear you, experienced parents. I even believe you!! But I would rather jostle my baby when getting in and out of the car, and wear her when I go out, just to avoid getting the infant car seat. Stubborn.

Two Car Seats: Can a couple survive with just one? The overwhelming majority say, “No way, you weird hippies!” This may be true (not the hippie part), but our friends all bought two seats or two bases before baby arrived. Sure, you are going to use something you already have. I would like to see if we can be a two-car but one car-seat family. So interested to see how this plays out!

A Second or Third Stroller: One kid, one stroller. We got a lightweight but sturdy and maneuverable collapsible stroller. And it is black!  No thank you, bulky, multi-colored, heavy travel system. No thank you, teeny umbrella stroller, I’ll pass on you too. Many flexible parents purchase additional strollers as their children grow and their needs change. Makes sense, but I just plan to be stubborn about this too.

In sum, I’m stubborn.  If you see a woman in line at Target with a screaming infant attached to her chest, purchasing 20 bottles, a baby monitor, and an infant car seat… that isn’t me. I’m stubborn.

Space monkeys can be stubborn too


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Lu In Boots

I have figured out why pregnant ladies are barefoot in the kitchen–BABIES ARE FLIPPING EXPENSIVE! (Check out this article to see what I mean!) Who can afford shoes or take-out , let alone going out to eat, when planning to bring a baby into the family? I’ll tell you who can’t, us!

In my admittedly selfish, boot-obsessed world, I compare all major purchases to Frye boots, a technique I call Frye Math. In my opinion, Frye boots are not only the gold standard in boots, but also the gold standard in bang-for-your-buck. A nice pair will set you back about $300, but they come with a lifetime guarantee to back up the amazing craftsmanship. Perfection.

Now, I’m no ditz (most of the time). I’m a statistics super-fan and I do not support girls-are-bad-at-math thinking. However, I am not always good at putting major purchases in perspective, so that’s where Frye Math comes in. My shopping trips typically involve comments like this, “Wow, for that I could get a pair of Frye Campus!” or “I could get three pairs of Fryes for the cost of that patio furniture! No deal.”

Well, I did some quick Frye Math, and babies cost, like, 30 pairs of Frye boots. And that is just the cost of set-up before the show! So I’m counting after hospital bills and nesting costs, but before they (1) come home and projectile poo and vomit everywhere (note: add cleaning supplies to budget); (2) need new clothes and larger diapers; and (3) drool, crawl, and walk through cognitive milestones requiring new toys. Eep!

I can’t help but imagine what 30 pairs of Frye boots would look like on my feet. Let me tell you, they look adorable! Like this pair? Oh baby! And yes, babies are adorable too, but are they 30-pairs-of-Fryes adorable?

Silver lining: I now think I understand why “push presents” were invented. Patrick, you now have the link to mine.  I’m serious. Add it to the budget. 😐

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